While I was in New Zealand something miraculous happened. Okay, not miraculous, but a huge professional achievement. The Huffington Post reached out to me. They liked my writing so much they asked to syndicate it. Literally overnight, my audience grew from 150,000 to 8 Million…and that’s just on their Facebook page. That’s a crazy amount of people to have the potential to reach. It’s still hard to fathom that that many people might care about what I have to say, and to be honest, it scares me more than anything. I have a platform. I can be meaningful with my words, perhaps focus on something other than the great American listicle. With great power comes great responsibility, right? But alas, everything’s a double-edged sword. The bigger the stage, the more you open yourself up to criticism.
Trust me, Internet trolls are not new to me. I’ve been called everything from the B word to the C word to receiving death threats aplenty (over brunch articles, mind you). I’ve developed a thick skin for random hollow insults. Trolls will be trolls. This was different.
The article in question is entitled, Why I Blame Travel For Ruining My Love Life. It’s not entirely factual, but it’s not entirely fiction either. As someone whose entire life is virtually online, that’s the version of me I want you to see. Have I ever had a relationship end because of my lifestyle? Of course not. Has it been more challenging to meet people and develop something sustainable? Yes, there’s no question it strains potential relationships. It’s embellished for the sake of storytelling, but it’s plausible. This guy, however, cut right through all the BS. Destroyed my carefully crafted wall in a matter of seconds. And whether that’s just my internet persona or not, it hit a little too close to home. Thanks dude. Nail. Head.
Travel didn’t ruin her love life. Her lack of desire for love did.
Ouch. I’m not even sure it was meant to be an insult. It just so succinctly and eloquently summed up what I’ve possibly been denying for so long. Is he right? Could a complete stranger psychoanalyze me that well? Are my motivations that transparent?
Travel is 100% my escape. But maybe I do need to take a good hard look at what I’m running from.
As for HuffPo, I’m pretty stoked to see where it goes, but I still have my sights set on the Times. Someday. 🙂